Here’s a short inspirational story about a beautiful woman who is aging. I hope you like it.
When you are already in your middle ages, healthy, with a good career, happily married and kids like everyone would like to have, I guess you couldn’t ask much from the life. Or could you?
It is human nature to always ask for more, and well I’m not an exception either…
My name is Erica, I’m 46 years, an English professor at the University of Washington. My husband Joseph and I met when I was 22 years old, when I was young and beautiful… After a lot of struggles, like I believe every relationship has, we got married 6 years later and have two wonderful kids, Mary and Ryan.
Day after day, the time was passing by… Mary and Ryan were growing up and I was growing old….
One day when I was preparing the dinner while Mary and Ryan were also sitting in the kitchen, talking and also helping me from time to time, my husband Joseph came home from work.
-Hey, kids! How are you doing today? He greeted Mary and Ryan with hand slap.
-Hey, dad! replied Ryan.
-We are just so hungry, added Mary.
-It’s almost done, Mary. I said.
Joseph came close to me and kissed me on the cheek.
-And how is my old lady? He asked.
That word “old” immediately hit me like someone throw a bomb on me.
-Old?! I said almost yelling.
-Well, of course mom! What, you think you would be forever young and beautiful?! Ryan was laughing.
-She is old, son,but she is still very beautiful. Of course that she has some wrinkles, but I mean look at her, she is still very beautiful! She is a beauty with wrinkles! Joseph kissed me on the cheek one more time.
Mary and Ryan started laughing like crazy, something inside of me was destroyed.
I mean, I know that none of us could remain forever young, but knowing that I have wrinkles was killing me deep inside since long ago and now that Joseph and Ryan said that I already look old it was killing me even more. They’re not helping at all. I feel they should have given me words of inspiration to go through motherhood sanely.
I finished the dinner, washed the dishes and went in our bedroom.
-What’s wrong? asked Joseph when he realized that something was going on with me.
-That’s why you don’t want me as much as you wanted me before, right?! My anger started to conquer me.
-What?! What are you talking about?! His eyes got wide open, obviously he was surprised by my question.
-Because I have wrinkles and I’m old, right?! That’s why you don’t want me anymore? Tell me the truth! I was almost yelling.
-Man! What is going on with you, Erica?! Of course I still want you! And you also can’t expect to remain forever young, who can?! None! It’s normal having wrinkles at our age, but as I said you are still very beautiful, he started with his explanation.
-Yeah, right. I said and I turned my back to him, going totally on the corner of our bed.
-What?! You are even mad?! Man!! Maybe you even want me to go and sleep on the sofa too, huh?! He also got mad.
-Actually,I do! I replied with a high tone of my voice.
-Oh well… Then I’ll go, you know! He stood up, took some blankets and a pillow and went in the living room.
I couldn’t take anymore, the pain filled my heart and the tears-my eyes. I started to cry…
The lack of self–confidence could only make the things worse. Instead of giving me encouraging words, my husband made fun of my wrinkles in front of our kids.
From that day, nothing was the same between me and Joseph. We were often arguing and every time we were walking next to some young and beautiful woman I thought he was staring at her like he used to stare at me back in a day. I don’t know if it was true or it was just my imagination, but it was putting gasoline to the fire even more.
Even I avoided talking to him, because I thought that he would start talk about my wrinkles again. Unfortunately, I did not know that the lack of communication could worsen the relationship between us. I guess no one wants his wife to be angry all the time for no particular reason!
You Don’t Know What You Have Until…
One day when I was going at work I saw a beautiful young girl in front of the university building. She was sitting and after a while she started crying. At first I felt jealous because of her beauty, but after a while I could not resist and I took the courage to ask her what was her problem. I did not expect that kind of answer. What I heard was devastating. She had just received the worst news that a woman could receive.
She could not have a baby with her husband. After trying very hard to get a baby, each attempt was in vain. After the meeting with the doctor, her husband abandoned her and wanted a divorce. Her whole life was ruined and she had nothing left. In this case her beauty was worthless. I did not know what to say to console her .
I felt terrible because I wanted to be younger and more beautiful, but I did not realize what is the most important thing in life – and that is the family. After work I bought a present for my husband and made his favorite dish. I wanted to compensate him for his understanding, patience and love. All of a sudden I felt inspired to give everything I had to my family.
After a few days, I started to talk about this problem with my Psychologist. She made me realize that it’s okay to have wrinkles on that age and we should actually be happy for getting old, that means that God gave us a long life and that’s one of the greatest gifts ever.
I have my children, my beloved husband and I did not notice that I was the happiest woman in the world. And then, everything in my life started to get better and better.
After all, age and everything else in our life is a state of mind and we all should work on our mind instead only of our physical appearance if we want to be happy and fulfilled… because actually that’s where the real beauty comes from.
Here’s an encouraging word or two for women: You are beautiful as long as you think you are.